Mom and dad, let me live my life!

 

I'm not a mother, I don’t know the feeling of naturedly raising a child. But the feeling of the child, perhaps, I will understand somewhat ...

Actually, in my age, an age like to pursue advancement, love, wedding, the parents are topics that seem to be mentioned less. That does not mean we don’t love them, but we just felt we’ve grown enough to get out of those arms.

But, for our parents, do they have such thoughts?

"With parents, children always small," is the sentence I've heard hundreds of times, from movies to reality, everyone said that. Perhaps, that's right! Carrying a life inside the body, losing appetite, sleeping less. Enduring the most severe pain in life, and then crying out when saw the baby. Striving hard to care for children, compress the laments to beat, to teach children to be good people. Playing with child, upsetting with child... All of these things, I call it love.

With children, love is nurturing, a sheltering.

With teenagers, love is deterrence and teaching.

And with age of majority like me, love is: "Well, it is so hard to do sales, you should change the job"; "Come stay with us, we will give something to do business"; "You are not allowed to marry that girl/guy" ...

Just some sentences like that, not only me, but my team-mates, listened again and again. Sometimes it is real love, but sometimes it is extreme stress. Therefore, if I have the opportunity to speak for children have grown up, I just want to say:

"We cherish the love of parents. But please, don't use it to tie me anymore. There are ways of love make us happy, but at the same time, there are ways make us feel very oppressive! ...

I understand you had spent almost a lifetime, there are stumble that parents more clearly see than us. You always prevent us from doing this and that, because you want to protect us. But we are no longer teenager. Please let the stumbles raise us like they have raised you, can you?

I also know you want to be with us when you are old, because in this age, people feel very lonely. But, we already had 1/3 our life with you. Let us choose the place that we belong, choose the friends we want to associate, let us take responsibility for our own life.

And I know, for you, love is protection. But, with us, love is wing, parent. I didn’t have the right to choose to appear on this life. I also couldn’t determine that I will grow up in the arms of whom. So, now, let me determine myself once, please parent!

You still have many ways to look after us. Instead of watching and determining, you should choose watching and trusting. Believing that your child had grown up enough, had been strong enough to step by their own feet. We believe that you will understand warm love can only make child weaker and fear because you already had a youth with the desire like us…

We love you all, parents!”

P/s: This post is given for friends of fanpage Stories at Saxa. Wish you have a meaningful Mother’s day with people you love. And hope that, your parent will always be healthy to watch your successes!