What is a charmed person?

 

One of the things that easiest to take offence in the company is the speech.

Language and speech were initially born to make people more understand each other. But it is not hard to recognize that, there are many contradictions start from the words.

Maybe we had had a vague word that made the next colleague express the bad attitude,  or an unintentional word that burning the fire of arguments. Every  times like that, what did we often think?

For me, I will think that he too feisty, or she is too sensitive ...

And apparently, I’d never assumed that the one who cause it was me. Because I think, I did not mean it, it was their misunderstood, not my mistake.

Until one day, I heard a question of boss at Saxa:

"When speaking, have you ever think about the feeling of listener? Or you think the speech is simply to liberate your feelings? "

I’d thought about it and found it was right. It all was thinking about feeling, but there was a difference, that thoughts were yours or others.

Such as:

A neighbor colleague used the headphone, and sang so loud, despite the fact that you was concentrating on the work.

Did you mind? Yes. But with 2 different feeling, you would say different words.

If I thought about my uncomfortable feeling, I would turn back, frown and ask her to stop immediately.

And when I thought that she would lose mood if I commented, I would slightly shake her and told her to sing a little bit lower. It was not stress and completely happy.

I realized that was the difference between a charmed person and an uMoonyinly person.

UMoonyinly person: I had to say everything I wanted to say.

Charmed person: I had to say the things people wanted to hear.

Language is a tool for people to understand each other. But understanding or misunderstanding, gaining sympathy or losing sympathy, it depend on the thought of speaker. Therefore, you should talk to attract people, don’t talk to push them away. Because after all, the charmed person always be people who gain more sympathy from people around.